“Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust. Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” ~ 2 Timothy 2:22
“What can be harmful about an innocent kiss?” She thought to herself as she sat beside her guy friend, watching a movie. “Surely there’s nothing wrong in just seeing what it would feel like?” She tried to convince herself when he turned to her, leaning in for the moment that had been building since they’d met.
We all have different boundaries when it comes to intimate relationships; however, I think we can all agree that the Bible is clear that these relationships should always be with like-minded believers. So, what happens when you meet a really great person, but they tell you that they don’t believe in God?
While there is nothing wrong with being friends with nonbelievers — in fact, I highly recommend it — we need to be clear on what our limits and boundaries are BEFORE these friendships begin to spark with sexual electricity. Satan is sneaky, and the most innocent temptations can be danger in disguise. We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve crushed on someone we knew we couldn’t be with — sometimes, we’ve even tried to make it work — but, ultimately, the divide becomes too great to ever really draw close to them.
So, is there really nothing to an innocent kiss? Are there no dangers in hanging out alone with a guy or girl friend after one of your confesses feelings and boundaries are set in place? If you have to ask yourself these questions, the answer is probably yes. Now, I’m not opposed to guys and girls being friends and spending alone time together; however, when feelings have been expressed, and the other party continues to toe-the-line of the boundaries, it is very important that we lead with wisdom and understand what the Word says, so we don’t fall trap to the temptations and lusts of our hearts.
If you’re going through something like this right now, I want to encourage you to take it to God and seek wisdom. As good as having attention feels, when it’s coming from someone who is not seeking God first or respecting your boundaries, that person is nothing but a distraction to pull you further from God. There will be a day when you will meet someone worthy of your affection, so don’t settle or compromise your beliefs for others. Flee from lustful desires and pursue purity through love, peace, faith, and godliness.